All parents try to be perfect for their children. Some are strict, some are not, but all of them are doing what they think is right. However, very often parents forget what the most important things for their children really are.
We at Bright Side have collected the key signs that show that you are a really cool parent.
1. Your child shares their problems with you.
It is great when your son or your daughter tells you about their successes and achievements. But it is much more important for them to be able to tell you about their problems. It is only natural to want to tell someone about your problems. And we want people to support us and listen to us. Children should understand that different situations may happen and that there is nothing bad about making mistakes.
2. You don’t think that good grades are everything.
If your child got a bad grade at school, they should not be afraid of telling you. Scared children often hide their grades and they panic when they think their parents might find out. Good parents can explain to their children that it is important to be good at school, but it is the knowledge that really matters, not the grades.
3. Everyone’s private space is respected in your family.
Many parents think that children should knock before they enter the room. But the parents themselves don’t always follow this rule. The rules in the family have to be the same for everyone. Respect your children’s private space and they will do the same for you.
4. You don’t criticize your child.
Good parents don’t criticize their children and they don’t call them stupid, fat, or lazy. These words make children insecure for a long time, maybe even forever. Choose the words you use carefully and say exactly what you are disappointed with, but don’t insult your children.
5. You admit your mistakes and apologize.
Everyone makes mistakes: children and adults. However, most parents forget that they not only have to teach their children to apologize, but also show them how to do it. If you realized that you overreacted and you shouldn’t have, don’t be shy about apologizing to your child. A person who can admit their weaknesses is a strong person.
6. You don’t impose your interests on your children.
Children should do the things that they like, not the things that you like. It is great if a father used to play soccer and his son also loves it. But it is possible that your child loves music or dancing. Learn to notice the talents of your children and don’t impose your dreams on them.
Good parents encourage children to develop and help them to grow as happy people who do what they like.
7. You trust your children’s words.
This is a situation that happens very often: a mother or a father goes to the school where the teacher tells them that their child has misbehaved. An angry parent doesn’t try to find out any details about the situation, comes home, and starts a scandal. But before screaming, it is better to ask the child about how they saw the situation. Maybe it is not your child’s fault at all and they actually need your help to deal with the situation.
What do you think are the most important things that ensure happiness in a family? Maybe you have your own family rules and traditions?